What We Can Learn About Love, Loyalty, and Prenups from Scheana Shay.
Scheana Shay has never been one to play by the rules. From her early days on Vanderpump Rules to her journey through motherhood and marriage to her candid podcast, she’s built her brand on transparency, resilience, and unapologetic self-expression. But her latest revelation may be her most powerful moment yet: opening up about her husband, Brock Davies’, infidelity during her pregnancy with their daughter, Summer Moon.
It’s a deeply personal and painful truth to share, especially in the public eye. But true to form, Scheana bared all in her book—from mental health to infidelity. She used her story to remind women everywhere of the importance of knowing your worth, protecting your peace, and yes, getting a prenup.
Let’s break down how Scheana’s decision to sign a prenup was a boss move—and what it means for anyone navigating the complexities of modern love, especially when infidelity and immigration are in the mix.
How Scheana took control of her narrative
When Scheana and Brock got married in 2022, she made headlines for proudly announcing that they had signed a prenuptial agreement. They even aired the part of the couple signing the prenuptial agreement in their attorneys’ office on VPR. Some people laughed. Others rolled their eyes. But in hindsight? That move wasn’t just smart—it was empowering.
Prenups are often painted as cold or transactional. But Scheana reframed the narrative. She showed us that a prenup can be a gesture of strength and clarity. In the words of Scheana:
“No matter how much you love someone and they love you, there’s always a risk that you could lose everything, and I just don’t want to take that risk again.”
Getting a prenup means entering a marriage with your eyes wide open. It means knowing that love and logic can coexist. And most importantly, it means taking care of yourself before a crisis hits. And Scheana knows as well as the next divorcee that losing half of your hard-earned money is not as good as gold.
Infidelity hurts. A prenup can set boundaries and provide peace of mind.
No one goes into marriage planning for betrayal. But life is complicated. Emotions shift. Mistakes happen. And when they do, a prenup can offer a sense of stability in the chaos, especially if infidelity is present.
Some celebrity prenups today include what’s known as an infidelity clause, though they are typically not enforceable in California, as Scheana accurately explained in Episode 116 of her podcast. Nonetheless, an infidelity provision typically outlines financial consequences if one spouse cheats. For example, it may require the cheating spouse to forfeit certain property or pay a financial penalty.
Even though infidelity clauses are generally not enforceable in states like California (where Scheana resides), some attorneys may feel comfortable with including one just for the boundary-setting aspect of the clause. Even when not legally binding, infidelity clauses can act as a moral contract that holds each partner accountable. It signals that fidelity isn’t just an emotional expectation—it’s a shared value with real-world consequences.
While it’s clear that they did not include an infidelity clause in their prenup, the prenup itself (i.e., keeping everything separate) can be a way to have an anchor to hold on to during times of turbulence, such as through infidelity. It gives the relationship a roadmap that provides a ton of peace of mind, which is surely the case for Scheana’s prenup.
Scheana’s on the hook for Brock’s immigration support. But a prenup may be able to help.
Brock Davies is originally from New Zealand, and his immigration status has been part of their storyline from the start. As we have learned from 90 Day Fiancé, for those of you who watch, any relationship that crosses borders comes with complex legal and emotional issues. In fact, we know that Brock and Scheana got married pretty quickly, in part based on Brock’s expiring visa. By marrying Scheana, Brock was able to obtain a green card. Through a marriage-based green card, Scheana is required to sponsor him and sign an Affidavit of Support—meaning that she is on the hook for his financial expenses for roughly ten years. Yes, even if they divorce.
There are some things a prenup can do to help and clarify immigration complexities when a US citizen is marrying a non-US citizen. A prenup can ensure all assets are separate and no spousal support is warranted (which we know is true for Brock and Scheana, based on this episode that aired on VPR). However, a prenup cannot waive Scheana’s responsibility to financially support Brock through the Affidavit of Support under Brock’s green card. But at least she won’t be required to pay more than that.
In addition, Scheana and Brock could have included a clause requiring Brock to take steps towards citizenship as soon as possible. This would mean that as soon as Brock becomes a citizen, Scheana is off the hook for his financial support vis-Ă -vis the Affidavit of Support. Whether or not this type of clause is enforceable is unclear, but it could be (at bare minimum) a way to set expectations within the relationship.
Normalizing prenups is powerful
One of the most admirable things about Scheana is her transparency about her life—from her mental health diagnoses to her relationships, to her respect for prenuptial agreements. She has never shied away from showing the messy, complicated, deeply human parts of her life. Since talking about prenups on her podcast or on VPR, she’s helped de-stigmatize what is still a taboo topic for many couples.
Here’s what Scheana said on her pod immediately following their engagement about prenups:
“We started to get the ball rolling by getting a prenup. We did that because this time around, as much as I think we’re going to live happily ever after, I just wanted to be smart about it. I guess that’s what people do. They get lawyers and they get prenups!”Â
Scheana isn’t saying she expected her marriage to fall apart. She’s not saying that she didn’t trust her partner. What she is saying is: “I value myself enough to prepare for every possibility.” That message is powerful for women everywhere. Whether you’re on reality TV or living real life behind the scenes, you deserve to feel secure—legally, emotionally, and financially.
Lessons from Scheana Shay
If you’re in a serious relationship and heading toward marriage, here are a few key takeaways from Scheana’s experience:
- Talk about a prenup early: It doesn’t have to be adversarial. It can be collaborative, romantic, even. Heck, from the sounds of it, Scheana and Brock’s prenup experience was pretty dang romantic–tears, prayers, and all! You can think of it as designing the foundation of your future together.
- Protect your peace: You don’t need to be famous to protect what you’ve built. If you have a brand, a business, or just a vision for your life, a prenup can help protect it.
- Be unapologetically YOU: Whether it’s sharing your story, being yourself, or just going against the grain, take Scheana’s life as example of owning your truth, embracing your flaws, and choosing authenticity—even when it’s messy, misunderstood, or wildly unconventional.
Scheana Shay may have signed a prenup before walking down the aisle, but it wasn’t about expecting the worst. It was about respecting herself. In doing so, she modeled exactly what empowered love can look like in 2025: clear, compassionate, and contractual.
